There have been so many good things going on in life. I got a new job which will help give me more time to write on here. And in a few short months, we’ll be adding a new title: Aunt and Uncle! Not once, but twice! That’s right, we have two babies coming into the family and we’re so excited and starting to buy gifts! These babies, which are just a few months apart, are both on J’s side and we know one is a boy. Which means, at least one bris!
A bris is an unfamiliar territory for me, and for one of the first times in all our years together, this is a first for J too. Even when he doesn’t know everything he at least has experienced the event or holiday. A bris, not so much. He never attended one past the age of five when his youngest cousin was born.
Kveller had a great primer on what to expect at a bris. And my mother-in-law talked me through it. Which I suppose is a welcomed reprieve from explaining to the woman at the hall who’s asked several times for the official date of the ceremony not realizing it’s based on birth.
But I’m stuck on one point: what do you bring as a gift?
I’ve heard things like “a gift like a shower since they don’t have one” which is true, but I sent a registry gift already. Or “a toy for the baby” which I’ve got a lot of those and didn’t think of those for the bris. I am hoping for it to be a bit more meaningful than a toy for a year a two.
I looked back at my baptism and my brother’s in the early 90’s for inspiration. We have quite a few gifts that were given that we have more than 20 years later. We both received gifts like savings bonds (hello early 90’s!), bibles and rosary beads. He received his Italian red coral necklace and I received my pearls that started my wedding set.
And while they’re different, at their core, both events hold the same meaning to those practicing. They’re welcoming a child into a faith and affirming a lifelong covenant with G-d. Some of those family members are no longer here and it’s nice to have those things. So as Aunt and Uncle, we’re looking for meaningful gifts they can carry with them.
For the sake of my interfaith groups and this blog, I tend to think of the differences that I can approach. I really thought I had a good list going and had thought of most things. I’ll be honest, I never thought that I’d be writing a post trying to figure out gifts for a bris.
So parents what are the best gifts for a bris? Anything memorable your child has received? Advice for a first time Aunt and first-time bris-attendee is always welcome!